Bad Parenting And The Effects Of Childhood Trauma On Adults

Updated: Oct 24

What is a bad parent? ... A bad parent is a broken person. Someone who neglected or abused the physical, emotional, and sexual development of a child. In turn the child is provoked to self soothe by engaging in destructive habits which repetitively carryover through life stages. Fractured bonds between parents, caregivers, and their children are likely to occur following adverse childhood experiences that are avoided or pervasive. Parents of adults who have experienced some sort of traumatic childhood event play a key role in resolving the history of negative emotions and behaviors displayed by their child following the event(s). In applied behavior analysis (ABA), learning histories are a sum of antecedent and consequence responses that shape an individual's interactions with environments, people, and future experiences. By supporting a child or adult to overcome the habits of a toxic learning history, parents can develop a new and healthy bond with their offspring.

Substance abuse, low self esteem, low quality or no close relationships, depression/anxiety, anger, and low personal achievement are all symptoms of childhood trauma that may lead well into adulthood. Vice vs virtue; its your choice. Just remember that actions have consequences and reactions (repeat actions) form histories. A vice is a behavior that has debilitating short and longterm effects leading down a path of destruction and overall lower quality of life. A virtue is a behavior that exemplifies high moral standards leading to personal satisfaction and a more productive life. Both lead to personal satisfaction but vices produce immediate rewards that contribute to a vicious life. When left unresolved, negative behaviors like smoking, drinking, unprotected sex, laziness, fits of rage, excessive crying, and sabotaging relationships become typical in the life of an adult who has experienced psychological, physical, or sexual abuse at some point in their childhood. These bad habits ultimately keep impacted adults from achieving their goals and limit the production of a higher quality of life, they also shorten the life span.

"Parents are not to be put to death for their children, nor children put to death for their parents; each will die for their own sin" (Deuteronomy 24:16). As much as a loving parent may decide to support their child to overcome toxic behavior patterns, the child or adult may struggle to form new and positive coping skills. This should not under esteem the significance of resolving unwanted behaviors in order to improve the individual's quality of life. In order to feel esteemed and valued thus increasing the motivation to pursue positive outcomes a traumatized adult must modify their routines to reflect a productive mindset. Through goal setting and establishing reward contingencies adult's can turn bad habits into good old stories. Families may desire to seek counseling and treatment for their child or loved one's destructive habits. An adult may choose to adopt a faith based lifestyle to improve their moral beliefs and exchange with a community of neurodiverse people! ABA Therapy offers a number of strategies for improving human behaviors and living a vice free lifestyle. Individuals with autism who have experienced trauma may wish to seek support from a Behavior Analyst, click here to Register For ABA Services and receive an initial consultation phone call.

If you have been raised with a moral faith system, it is important to consider the realities of repeated actions that don't reflect the kingdom of God. Adults can blame their parents for every antecedent event that influences their negative emotions, or they can take responsibility for their actions. The latter yields greater rewards.

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